Good Byes Are Always Hard

CAN YOU DEFINE THIS?

Do you agree with me by reading the heading? You must be thinking about why I have been discussing this today. This is a fear inside me always. “The most painful feeling is the ones that are never said and never explained”. They are called Goodbyes. Goodbyes can be explained how? It can be losing a family member which is hard. People who have lost their loved ones in this Covid can relate it to me. My readers — Don’t be emotional. I know how hard it is. “Goodbyes are never good”. This statement is 100% true.

There are also instances not only of death but people who are alive. Goodbyes also mean separating from someone close to you. Another painful moment and difficult to accept. It’s really painful to say goodbye to someone that you don’t want to let go of. But it’s more painful to ask someone to stay when you know they want to leave.

ARE YOU FEELING THE SAME?

This topic / Blog is very close to my heart. I have been very close to few people in my life. But the fact is people don’t stay for long with me. Always I have experienced a feeling of getting a farewell from my loved ones. A farewell is also a form of acceptance to an ending. It’s a feeling of letting go.

“The only thing that comes from Goodbyes is heartbreaks”.

HONEST OPINION-

I cannot say these words loudly. But Goodbyes make you crazy. People come in and go out of your life. Very few come back into your life again. But I don’t believe as people don’t make a comeback in your life. I know a lot of people in my life who are now not part of me anymore. Though I want them to be back but unfortunately as I said earlier, people very easily give farewell to me.

Separating from a friend can be difficult to handle either way. People often say ending a friendship is more difficult than a romantic one and I truly believe this.

Whatever the reason for the breakup of the friendship might be, the common mistake everyone does is a lack of conversation with that friend. Sometimes the cause of friendship break is a factor that is beyond the control of you and your friend.

POEM-

Kehne ko saath jhoda tumne

Akela kar ke begana kia tumne

Hum to tumhari dosti ke sahara jee rahe the

Is tarah haath jhod dia tumne.

HARDEST FEELING-

With tears soaked in my eyes, with every bit of your being in my life, I know how hard and how heavy it will be for me to say Goodbye. You want to avoid this situation but if it’s true for the happiness of another person I will do that. You want to make that every fraction to hold and say to the person — “Don’t say Goodbye, it’s tough for me. I wish to hold you for some more time, to stay together.” Now I am broken deep inside and no one will ever fix this.

Saying Goodbye is Never Easy —

This process of Goodbyes is never easy. Since Childhood, I have said multiples goodbyes. No one feels happy to say especially those who are emotional by heart. You feel like someone has kept a heavy rock on your heart. You feel pain both from inside and outside. We left so many people behind in our school days, many co-workers whom we greeted each day in the morning and became part of our family. No matter what will be the situation, goodbyes are never easy.

“I know this goodbye will be worth the pain, but what I don’t is How I will survive until we meet again”.

How positively we can take these Goodbyes —

Every goodbye gives you a lesson. A person not with you completely or a person who has left your company due to some of the other reasons. It is with these goodbyes we remember the significant place that person holds in our hearts. We do appreciate all those special moments when we were together. We value the influence that they had on our lives. It will be a big responsibility to take their memories deep within your heart. Some people carry it very well and some can’t live and are unable to accept this fact. What kind of a person you are? Ask yourself.

TO END THIS-

Just remember, with every goodbye, your heart will break. You will be broken into pieces and collaborating again by collecting all those pieces might take time. The healing will be there though slow for some which are a difficult one. It takes a lot of time, effort, and a whole lot of love and cares to take that person out of this.

“Saying goodbye to certain people doesn’t mean we stopped loving them. Sometimes Goodbye is a painful way of letting that person know how much we love them.”

Remember you are not alone in this path of goodbyes and you will never be.

But always keep In mind — “ We part only to meet again.”